Sadie, our 18-month-old Havanese, got here to us at 12 weeks initially of pandemic lockdown. Effectively, I do know it’s my fault for taking her all over the place with me, for placing her in her crate at evening and staying till she settles.
With three adults within the family, she focuses on me ALL the time. If I am going out with out her she’s a large number till I return. How can I assist her to remain alone for a number of hours with out dropping her thoughts?
You’re so proper in referring to Sadie as a pandemic pet! You’re not alone. I used to be writing and telling folks originally of the pandemic, “Get out and get pet used to being alone,” and the way to do it. My guess is that 40 to 50 p.c of the (hopefully) “put up pandemic” questions I’ve been getting need to do with separation anxiousness.
The very first thing I’d recommend is that you just begin making Sadie much less depending on you by asking the 2 different adults in the home to assist. In the event that they feed her for a few weeks as a substitute of you and take her out for infrequent walks, it’s going to broaden her worldly view. You’ll all the time be her solar amongst many stars, however by lowering her “neediness” for you it’ll make her extra assured, which is strictly what you need and begin. It will be nice if the opposite two adults in the home known as her on occasion and when she arrived, she bought a deal with. Sadie will respect it too.
Henceforth once you go away the home, de-emotionalize leaving and arriving. When you seem sorry to go or overly excited to return, you’re emphasizing the separation. Your aim is to make Sadie joyful to see you go as a result of that’s the one time she will get incredible treats, like a hole marrow bone with rooster or ham wedged in the course of it. Take away it once you get dwelling! The very best toys solely occur once you’re not dwelling. Then there’s train — I’ve been saying it for a few years, “A drained canine is a well-behaved canine.” In my guide, “Canine Coaching Diaries,” except for my loopy experiences and tales, the do’s and don’ts of separation anxiousness and aggression are given quite a lot of consideration.
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